Children and Pets
Why do your children act up in the negative?
How can you change their behavior for the positive?
Have you ever studied your pet’s behavior?
Why does a child create havoc over something simple?
The answer is simple. The child wants attention.
I recently have been dog and cat sitting my sister's pets. She had been away from home on various business trips. I have been around her pets for years. She was always there for her pets in the past. She received love and affection from them without asking for anything in return. They were her pets and they loved to be with her and their behavior was typical.
What hit me right between the eyes was her animal's behavior after she had been gone for a length of time.
When I walked into the backyard her dog came zooming over to me from whatever part of the large yard she happened to be in. I would pet her, I would feed her. I found out the most astonishing thing.
She was more interested in me petting her and talking to her then she was interested in eating.
Even her cat which had always been independent and never really cared for affection or attention of any kind from humans was there to receive his share of petting.
When petting one animal the other was their sticking in his/her noise and wanting as much affection and attention as the other one.
This simple logic applies to your children. And you
Children want to feel love by receiving attention, affection and to be able to feel safe with their parents. That is the simple answer. Without it, your children will be miserable, make your lives miserable and their school will not be happy either.
Yes, when you come home from work you are stressed and exhausted.
Yes, you do not have the time to really make your time special with each individual child.
When you walk in the door - stop - smile at them – give them a hug and tell them you loved and missed them all day.
They will probably come running when they hear you walk in the door.
If they are older - plugged into the television - computer - video games - make the effort to walk over to them - give them a big hug.
Tell your children you love them and missed them during the day. Ask them how their day went. See if that will help turn their negative behavior into positive behavior.
You can always make a special time for your children each week. This will be your special time together. This will be something you and your children can look forward to. Another suggestion is read to your children at bedtime. Your children are only small for a short time.
Cuddling, snuggling, hugging and kissing is a good thing. It can lead to positive behavior.
If you want to make your spouse smile, your children feel loved and cherished try hugging and kissing.
Why live your life without attention/affection and love. If it needs to be changed, change it. It just takes a touch, a hug or kiss to change your life.
Linda Meckler, author copyright updated 2017
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